Facing changes.

I’m sure everyone heard of the phrase, “change is the only constant”.

And most of the times changes results in us becoming less confident and competent than our usual self. Escaping or ‘hiding’ from the change doesn’t help, perhaps if it does, its only in the initial state.

Nevertheless, one way of understanding your anxieties (due to the changes) is to realise that its your way of reacting when you can’t predict what’s going to happen. This reaction is like a ‘core’ and its all in-built in everyone of us.

Every human being will experience this fear, and its about how you manage it. Some manage it fine and manage to overcome and adapt to changes, while others stumble a little..

The same logic: if you think you’ll handle the change well, you will. (:

Basically, all it takes is to try to get rid of the self-doubt feeling, by being more confident of yourself!!

1. Focus only on things that you do well.
   -do so by being very positive-minded, squeeze out all the negative thoughts. spend more time doing something you’re good at/ or at least enjoy doing, and that’ll give you something like a confidence-boost! :D
2. Power of speech.
   -the way we all converse makes a huge difference as its able to portray our enthusiasm and excitement towards a matter; and that indirectly causes others to respond to you more positively. smile; even if you’re talking on the phone, as it results in better enunciation!
3. Negotiate more ‘me time’.
   -spend more time doing things you like rather than things you’re doing out of obligations. no doubts we all have obligations in life, but things are always negotiable. it is always good to do things willingly instead of being ‘forced’ to.
4. Be assertive.
   -assert yourself, be sure about your own feelings and emotions without alienating others. be firm, but pleasant. sometimes put yourself in other’s shoes, if required.
5. Visualise success
   -i’m sure everyone know how sweet success feels, so just visualise it and start living positively, from day to day for a couple of months. eventually, you’ll not only feel, but taste the fruits of success.
6. Just relax.
   -relaxation is vital for creative thinking, and you need your creative juices to flow to solve problems!! breathing more than 12 times a minute shows that you’re breathing too shallowly and too fast! :)
7. Become a winner.
   -understand that winning comes in all forms and think yourself as a winner. do something you like (i.e. your hobby), you may not be the best but as long as you’re enjoying, you’re a winner too! ;)
8. Stick with friends.
   -not just any friend; but friends who are caring, who foster you. there will be bound to be those whom you will have obligations, but for everyone else, you  have a choice. make sure your friends make you feel good about yourself!!
9. Deal with disappointments.
   -i always say this: life is never smooth-sailing. there will be times when things dont go the way you want them to. nonetheless, its not the end of the world. allow yourself sometime to be upset and after which, bounce back to your usual positive self!          & finally..
10. Turn yourself inside out!
    -an outside-in person craves attention and is only self-concerned. being an inside-out person, you focus on others as well. you’ll become more confident as others start responding to your openness and interest in them.

I adapted these tips from Cleo magazine (but mostly rephrased); because I found them really useful. I, myself is one victim when facing changes. Hopefully, after reading, you get some insights on how to have a little more confidence in yourself!

ALL THE BEST :)